Dear Transmother (sp?),
You are not helpful. Stop posting to message boards as if you had anything even remotely resembling decent advice to offer. If you had anything useful to add, that would be one thing, but you are muddying up the discussion with your irrelevant (and frankly, boring and stupid) commentary. Your banter is far from insightful and in fact only serves to make it more difficult for others to find quality information.
Just stop. Seriously. You are one insipid comment away from being banned.
Incidentally, do not ask for advice any more. You get what you give; accordingly, you go home with nothing. Do consider staying there.
Cordially (at best),
Your inner monologue