when it comes to relationships, love, all that mushy crap, i have an opinion. it’s based on my observations, filtered through my perception, and combined with my instincts and feelings. i think that the solution i have provided for you here (free of charge, as always) will not only make your life better, but it will make the lives of those around you better as well. in fact, it will solve not only problems of the heart, but problems of any sort whatsoever. and on any scale; global, even… if you want it.
the problem: we are so jaded. we are so cynical. as a nation, as a society, as a civilization, and even as a whole world. we don’t trust each other; we are bitter about our past experiences, even though the “past” is a human-made concept that is impossible to prove even exists. as a result, we approach social situations with trepidation and hesitancy, even reluctance. we often question whether or not we even believe in “true love,” even though such a thing is entirely based on our own efforts and ability to cooperate and harmonize ourselves to others. thus, we hold ourselves back from what we most desire, simply because we are selfish and want to protect our own emotional state, even at cost. we seek to seperate love into ill-defined categories.
the problem with the problem: love is love. there are no differences in the “types” of love that people try in vain to define. there are only additives. for example, you love your brother, but you wouldn’t have sex with him (hopefully)… that still means that you love him. love and sex/romance are not the same thing! they make an excellent combo, of course. i propose that we begin to see/”define” our relationships as 1) loving; 2) loving, with sex; and 3) loving, with romance. (if i missed any appropriate side dishes, add it in yourself.) …in addition, when you allow yourself to feel love, you allow the world to love you just as much back, and you allow yourself to be loving to your self. there is no such thing as “false” love; ALL love is real. if you think you love someone, then you do – end of story. no ifs, ands, or buts.
the solution: tell whoever you’re with that you love them. that’s right – just say it… but don’t just say it, mean it. put yourself into it. just do it! when you allow yourself to release all that bottled up love, you will find you have released your tensions and inner conflicts as well. and do it publicly… i want to see my friends page LITTERED with a buncha damn mushy sweetie-pie crap and nonsense. don’t just write it on LiveJournal, say it aloud to your partner, and to everyone you know. say it to complete strangers. don’t be shy. you’re not putting anything on the line – you’re just letting people know how you feel, that’s all. it’s easy!
nostradomnatrix adds this!:
Don’t just tell them that you love them. SHOW THEM. Every chance you get.
Could be just a stupid post-it left on their car. Could just be a stupid chotchke purchased at a flea market.
Let them know that you love them in all the ways you can.
